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The 10 Rules for Living a Charmed Life

10 Rules for Living a Charmed Life

The 10 Rules for Living a Charmed Life

Rules. We like to make them, we like to break them, and whether or not you know it, we all live by a set of rules we have already written for ourselves subconsciously. Successful people are aware of their rules, and in fact, intentionally craft and monitor them to ensure that they are consistently operating at a high level and making progress towards their greatest purpose in life. The other week, I wrote about getting started with personal development for those who are new to the concept. In that post, that you can read here, I discussed how the first step to developing yourself on a personal level is to audit yourself and your current situation in life. Today, I want to share with you a list of 10 Rules for Living a Charmed Life that I myself and many of the world’s most successful individuals follow. As you read through these rules, audit your life and think about subconscious rules you may live by that conflict with any of these. You may find that areas of your life that aren’t going as planned may result from following the wrong rules.

Rule #1: Live Within Your Means

The most basic financial principle and recipe for a balanced life of more happiness and less stress is to spend less than you earn. 

Rule #2: Design Your Ideal Life

You are the master of your own destiny and it is up to you to take control of your life choices to build the life you want. 

Rule #3: Be Present

You achieve a powerful sense of focus when you are able to keep your mind on the present moment by not thinking about passed actions or worrying about future ones. 

Rule #4: Practice Gratitude

One who practices gratitude regularly will learn that they are, in fact, the luckiest person in the world. 

Rule #5: Follow Your Passion

If you are looking to find meaning for your life and joy in your work, the best course of action is to follow your passion. 

Rule #6: Create Your Own Opportunity

Not everyone is given the same opportunities in life, but you can make your own when you make a plan and work to execute.

Rule #7: Make Your Own Luck

If you want something to happen, you need to be willing to make it happen.

Rule #8: Love Yourself First

No one will ever be as important to your life as you are, so make sure you take care of yourself first and foremost. 

Rule #9: Surround Yourself with Friends & Family

No one is alone in this world no matter how much they believe they are. There is a community around you willing to support you whether that is the family you are born into or the family you create for yourself.

Rule #10: Love Fearlessly

There is no greater risk with any greater reward than to love. 

If you are ready to take your personal development a step deeper and begin working to implement these rules for a successful life, now is the perfect time to start the Charmed Life Master Class. The Charmed Life Master Class is a self-guided activity based digital course I designed to help you learn and execute these 10 rules to empower your life and it is currently being offered for it’s lowest price ever. Click here to read more about the Charmed Life Master Class, browse the course outline and see if it’s the right personal development tool for you!

xoxo,

How to Set Goals for Your Best Year Yet

How to Set Goals for Your Best Year Yet

How to Set Goals for Your Best Year Yet

The New Year has begun and most of us are starting our first full week of work for the year, myself included! Can you believe, I still don’t have my goals for the year properly worked out? I know, I know, so unlike me, but it’s not for a lack of trying, I promise. I’ve worked out most of my business goals and projects- that is usually the easy part for me in my goal setting process and how I spent a majority of my work time in December, but on a personal development level, I’m struggling to make heads or tails of what I want to come for the year. So, I’m going back to basics this week, breaking out my You Got This Workbook, and following my streamlined procedure for setting my goals! You’d think I’d have this process down by now, but realistically, goal setting is only something I do on a yearly basis so it’s helpful for me to have the goal setting process codified as a system to review, even if I DID right the book on it! If you don’t have my You Got This Workbook, it’s my Strategic Goal Setting and Planning Guide to Help You Achieve Your Goals and Organize Your Life and you can get your copy of this digital PDF workbook here. If not, today I want to share you with you the simple process outlined in the book to get you started working out how you will make this Your Best Year Yet!

Step 1: Figure Out What You Want

The first step to goal setting is always understanding what you want, and I will warn you, this is one of the hardest parts of the goal setting process for me, as well as many others I’ve spoken to! While some of us wake up knowing exactly what we want from life, others find identifying their passions or desires difficult. It’s no surprise really, we live in a world of immediate gratification, where hustle and busy-ness are hailed as the pinnacle of human achievement. Identifying your passions and true desires requires stillness and quiet time in reflection to get outside ourselves and see a big picture for our lives. Does this mean you will need to plan out everything for your life long term? Certainly not, but the more you can identify about the life you want to live, the more inspiration you will have to begin designing your ideal life and identifying the specific goals and projects you will set to make that life a reality.

TRY THIS: Meditate on your life, taking inventory of your current life, what you have and don’t have, and what lifetime achievements you’ve hit or have yet to meet until you can make a list of the goals you are interested in achieving.

Step 2: Focus on Timing

Once you have identified what you want to achieve in your life, for either the near future or long term, the next step in the goal setting process is to get focused on what you will do this year to move your goals forward. After step 1, you most likely have a long list of things you want to do or achieve and the worst thing you can do is take the list as-is and start on everything. In order to achieve goals and success, you need FOCUS. This means you will need to take that list of goals you have and deciding when in your life you want them to happen. According to renowned success coach Tony Robbins “most people overestimate how much they can do in a year and underestimate how much they can do in ten years.” Although you may approach your goal setting process with a sense of urgency, you need to be realistic about what you will be able to do in the coming year. Take it slow and steady, choose the essential goals that you can realistically achieve this year and then break out your other goals and dreams into time frames for your life. There is a time and a place for everything in life, so think about where your goals belong in terms of the order you should achieve things and which time period in your life would be the best time to achieve which goal.

TRY THIS: List out your goals into a logical order of events. Don’t worry yourself too much about expectations in terms of when people “normally” achieve x in their life, unless age is truly a factor to consider. For example, for a woman having children can only occur within a specific time frame naturally, unless you are open to adoption which widens that scope. Achieving a college education can happen at any age of life, but it would be necessary for you to achieve a specific degree before you can reach a specific career goal related to it.

Step 3: Make a Plan

Now that you have identified what you will focus on for this coming year, the next step in this goal setting process is to make a plan for how you will achieve the goals you’ve set this year. Keep in mind that you can very well start on goals this year that you don’t intend to finish this year, as some goals (like going to college) take years to achieve. In order to achieve anything, however, you need to make a plan for how you will get from where you are right now to success with your goal. Personally, I try to keep my plans as simple as possible. Another common mistake I see people make with their goals is that they try to throw every solution at the goal and do more than is necessary, which ends up leading to overwhelm and failure to achieve the goal. If you have no clue how to achieve something or how to simplify the process, find someone with experience and ask them how they did it! They will most likely be able to give you feedback on the steps and direction you should take with your goal and give you information on things they did that was a waste of time for them. The more research you can do to make a simple plan to achieve success, the more likely it is that you will reach your goals!

TRY THIS: Turn your goals into project plans and break out as many steps as you can think of to track your goal and progress. This will be a customizable roadmap you can use to stay on track. You Got This includes key project planning pages you can use to break down your goals and detailed instructions for completing this process but you can also use my project planning bundle if you want to keep your projects in your planner as I do!

Step 4: Make a Change

Many goals we set for ourselves require us to make some changes in our life to support them. For example, if you set a goal for weight loss, it means you need to make lifestyle changes that help you avoid temptation and stay on track with healthy habits. For each goal, think about what changes you need to make in your life to support the success of that goal. After all, our habits define us and it’s the little things we do or don’t do each day that determine if we will be successful in practically everything in life. Don’t think you need to change your whole life and every habit or routine, but evaluate how changing your actions could support the achievement of a goal.

TRY THIS: Consider what one change you can make in your life or habits right now that will support your success with one of your goals. If you can think of more than one, really focus in on choosing one essential change that will make the biggest impact on whether or not you are successful.

Step 5: Execute!

Now, the hard part (second only to step 1) actually making it happen and executing on your plans. The easiest way to achieve anything in life is to have a good plan and solid work ethic- other than that, there really aren’t many shortcuts you can take. Before you achieve anything in life- any goal, any project, anything worth having really- it seems impossible, but don’t let the work ahead of you scare you. Small steps accumulate into significant progress. If you can commit to doing something everyday to move you closer to your goal, even just a simple little task, before long you will see progress. The best advice I have for you at this point is to focus on the next task on the list, instead of reviewing the whole list on a regular basis. If you can focus on what you are doing next, instead of worrying about the next ten things after that, you are less likely to loose motivation and actually get the work done!

TRY THIS: Build yourself an arsenal of motivation and inspiration. Follow specific accounts on Instagram or Twitter, put inspirational quotes around your workspace or make a vision board! Whatever you can do to keep yourself focused on the outcome and not the work, the more likely you are to achieve that big, scary goal!

It looks like it’s time for me and you to get started setting our goals for the year! I hope this post has been helpful to you for getting started, and if you need any additional assistance, I’d recommend picking up the You Got This workbook here in my shop!

xoxo,

How to Get Started with Personal Development ?

How to Get Started with Personal Development?

How to Get Started with Personal Development 

I would bet that at some point in your life, you began a process of personal development. Perhaps this was in order to secure an education, skills or opportunity that you were interested in. Perhaps you tried to take control of your health, schedule, or habits. Whether or not you were successful, I could guess that you started the endeavor and then either completed the task in the form of short term gratification, or slowly phased it out of your life, perhaps unknowingly! Personal development as a concept is incredibly multifaceted. There are so many options we can take to start the process of bettering ourselves in one or many aspects of our lives, but before that process even begins and in order to make the process successful, we need to start by understanding what personal development is all about.

“Strive for Progress, Not Perfection.”

What is Personal Development?

Personal development is a lifelong process people undertake to understand, improve and execute on their capacity and potential. For each person, this will mean developing different skills, setting unique goals and integrating specific techniques into their life routinely. While personal development as a pursuit never truly ends during your life, your approach towards it and your milestones may be fulfilled or ended giving you the impression of achievement.

What are the roadblocks to Personal Development?

The knowledge that personal development is a lifelong process is the biggest misunderstanding or roadblock that ultimately keeps people from fulfilling their potential. Most of us want things have a clear start and end or we feel overwhelmed, but truly our natures are geared towards ongoing progress through habit and routine, so understanding that your personal development needs to be integrated as a habit or routine increases your chances of success.

What do we need to do before we begin Personal Development?

Depending on the metaphorical level you are coming in at, we all have different needs to get started, but the one thing we all must do before we begin is to acknowledge that we want to improve and which area of our life we want to be better. This could mean enhancing an area that is already doing well or filling in an area that is empty or lacking.

What is the first step we should take towards Personal Development?

Although all our needs and goals will be different, the first thing that I find helpful to do is to do a self-audit. Think about where are are currently in life over multiple factors and how our current skills, knowledge, and habits keep us stuck in this place. Getting a big picture understanding is a great way to take the first step down the road to personal development because it can give us clarity into the direction we want to take and guide our choices in terms of how we want to spend our time developing.

I hope this post has given you an solid foundation to understanding personal development so you can get started on your journal for self improvement in the future. I’d love to create a series around this topic, so please feel free to send me your questions and issues with personal development and I would love to create some resources for you on the blog to help you find success!

xoxo,

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100 Life Changing Actions to Turn into Habits

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100 Life Changing Actions to Turn into Habits

They say if you control your habits, you control your life! So, I’ve been collecting and refining a list of actions or activities that I think are essential for us to master and turn into habits in our lives. They are broken down into ten major areas or categories of life that cover nearly every situation. I don’t expect anyone to turn all 100 into habits in life, certainly not every action applies to every person, but if you’re looking to improve your life in any of these ten areas, there will be a habit to master that I’m sure you don’t have down yet! I hope this inspires you to make little changes in your life that add up to big things!

Health

1. Drink half you weight in ounces of water (150lbs > 75oz)

2. Serve yourself slightly smaller portions at meal time

3. Take any opportunity to walk

4. Wash your hands after you finish in the bathroom

5. Meal Plan

6. Eat home cooked meals most of the week

7. Stretch in bed before you exit

8. Never skip your annual health exams

9. Brush your teeth everyday

10. Wear seasonally appropriate clothing

Relationships

11. Say please and thank you

12. Hold the door for strangers

13. Talk to members of your immediate family weekly and extended family regularly

14. Interact with your friends on social media

15. Send loved ones birthday cards in the mail

16. Send thank you cards for the gifts you receive

17. Set a regular date night with your significant other

18. Be the first to apologize and the first to forgive

19. Accept the fact that not everyone is going to like you

20. Kill ‘em with kindness

Personal Development

21. Create a simple morning routine

22. Create a simple evening routine

23. Spent time visualizing your goals while you are in the shower

24. Create your own personal empowerment Mantra

25. Spend at least one evening a week on self care

26. Set your alarm 15 minutes earlier

27. Never go to bed before removing your makeup

28. Never go to bed before removing your jewelry

29. Say YES to experiences that scare you

30. Say NO to experiences that do not serve you

Spirituality

31. Spend time in quiet reflection daily

32. Accept your limitations

33. Surrender your sense of control

34. Have integrity in all that you do

35. Have grace with yourself and others

36. Seek to find the activities and people that light you up

37. Be generous with others

38. Let go of your ego

39. Ask for forgiveness

40. Always believe in the impossible

Productivity

41. Use a planner

42. Batch your work

43. Set your top 3 priorities each day

44. Silence your phone and notifications while you work

45. Write everything down

46. Get down to inbox zero on a weekly basis

47. Block out time for important tasks

48. Be clear on your priorities

49. Accept that you won’t always get everything done

50. Never be afraid to ask for help

Career

51. Find a mentor

52. Find someone to mentor

53. Dress for the job you want, not the job you have

54. Accept responsibility for your mistakes immediately

55. Take criticism with grace

56. Work hard even when your boss isn’t watching

57. Turn off from work when you get home

58. Volunteer for new opportunities and challenges

59. Make your voice heard in meetings

60. Always ask for what you’re worth

Hobbies

61. Read one book a month

62. Keep a journal

63. Cook for pleasure

64. Find a physical hobby

65. Plan one no-tech evening a week

66. Limit your screen time

67. Spend time outside in nature often

68. Keep a list of things you’d like to try in your free time

69. Explore your city

70. Spend more time creating than consuming

Organization

71. Make your bed as soon as you wake

72. Never let a wet towel touch the floor

73. Never let dishes sit in the sink

74. Keep money organized in your wallet

75. Clean out your bag at the end of the day

76. Establish a home care routine

77. Discard damaged clothing

78. Keep your contacts up to date

79. Discard and replace expired products

80. Don’t treat your vehicle like a storage unit

Community & Charity

81. Find a charity to contribute to regularly

82. Donate your old clothing

83. Pay for the coffee of a person behind you in line

84. Follow local news

85. Be friendly towards your neighbors

86. Practice safe driving

87. Support local small businesses

88. Greet your mail carriers by name

89. Bring reusable shopping bags to the grocery store

90. Be kind to everyone you meet

Money & Finance

91. Carry cash and change with you

92. Pay off your credit card balance each month

93. Spend less than you earn

94. Save at least 10% of everything you make

95. Start a retirement account and contribute to it monthly

96. Pay your bills on time

97. Don’t open credit accounts at every store you visit

98. Set up dedicated savings accounts for major purchases

99. Put extra money towards paying down debt

100. Check your bank balances and card statements weekly

What actions on this list do you plan to work on for your own personal development? I’d love to hear about your plan in the comments!

xoxo,

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Practical Tips for Getting Things Done

Practical Tips for Getting Things Done

Practical Tips for Getting Things Done

It’s time for another link roundup! Here are my picks for this month’s best reads around the web to help you with your Personal Development, Productivity and Business! Enjoy!

Personal Development

Productivity

Business

As always, I hope you’ve enjoyed these articles and I’d love to read anything you found informative this month, so please feel free to leave links in the comments below!

xoxo,

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What Nobody Tells You About Self Care, and How to Start or Break a Habit

What Nobody Tells You About Self-Care, and How to Start or Break a Habit

What Nobody Tells You About Self Care, and How to Start or Break a Habit 

If you remember, my theme for the month of September has been self care and throughout this month, I shared some different topics in my blog and on YouTube to outline my experience of learning to take better care of myself and my priorities. So, I thought that for my link roundup this month, I would try to focus on self-care, habits and motivation to help you make a positive change in your life as well!

Personal Development

Productivity

Business

I hope you enjoyed these articles, and if you have anything you read and loved in the month of September, please let us know by sharing a link in the comments below!

xoxo,

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How to Find a Mentor!

How to Find a Mentor

How to Find a Mentor

Mentorship is an essential part of life no matter what industry you work in or life path you have chosen. We all learn from watching others and following the examples laid before us. There are definitely times in our lives where this relationship is methodically practiced, for example, in school or through athletic organizations, most people have a mentor whether they call it that or not. Teachers, coaches, counselors, and parents all take on these roles as we develop into adulthood but after graduation it tends to get a little more difficult to find a mentor and because of that, I think many people tend to stumble through their lives without clear direction for a distinct period of time. If you are looking for guidance in your life, career or business, but struggle to find someone who is willing and able to give you advice and help set a positive example for you, I am going to share some tips I have learned about finding a mentor.

What is a mentor?

The dictionary defines mentor as “an experienced and trusted advisor.” Pretty straight forward. Expanding on that, I consider a mentor to be someone who has done the things you want to do or has a certain perspective that you need, and they are willing to share their experience with you. Mentorship is a simple, almost one-sided relationship that I think many people over estimate and almost romanticize. Although some mentors may be very invested in their mentee and have a close personal relationship with them, that really isn’t what the relationship is about. I know for a long time, I thought a mentor would be some high level VP who took me under their wing and showed me the ropes, spending personal time in developing my career and skills, but the truth of that matter is that not many people, if any, are going to be that invested in helping you advance. This is why I think it’s very hard for many of us to find a mentor. We might have the wrong expectations and therefore misidentify a possible mentorship opportunity. When it all boils down, finding a mentor requires you to take control of your own destiny in order to find the person or people who can help you make it a reality.

Where do you find a mentor?

For most people, a mentor may be someone at work who has their next level job and they feel comfortable going to that person for career advice or for insight into their work. It could be a co-worker who has worked at your organization for a longer period of time who may have certain skills you don’t have and may be willing to teach you. Or a mentor could be someone with a job or career you would like, who you network with and pick their brain over coffee or lunch dates. You may have one or any number of mentors right now in your life that you haven’t actually identified as such. Do you have any co-workers or professional acquaintances that fit this description?

If you don’t currently have a mentor or you want to find another, identifying your mentor depends on what end you are trying to achieve. Are you trying to find a certain skill? Trying to advance in or even change your career? Perhaps you are starting your own business enterprise and need advice? And don’t think that mentors are only for work! Even new mothers, students, and those trying to make a change in their personal lives need mentorship and advice! Step number one is to identify what you are trying to achieve that you need help or insight with!

The next step to finding a mentor is to identify a pool of individuals that you know have the experience you would like to have. This could be friends, family members, co-workers, even professional coaches or consultants! I think many people misunderstand the mentor relationship and think that you need to know the person in real life to get their help, but there are many professionals who have built their careers on giving advice on certain topics and you have to keep in mind that as mentorship is a very one-sided relationship, if you want or need consistent advice and support, your best option may be to pay someone who has experience. 

Now the third and final step to finding a mentor is to approach each of your candidates by floating a question by them. You can call them, send them an email, or visit them in person and ask a very straightforward question that you need answered to help you with your goal. Some people will be receptive and helpful to your question and others will dismiss you. This process will help you identify who is willing to help you and who is not. From their answer, I say go with your gut feeling on who you trust and want advice from and pursue the relationship that feels best to you.

How to establish a relationship with a mentor?

Once you find someone who has the knowledge, skill, or experience you are looking for and has shown that they are receptive to helping you, I think the most professional and straight forward thing to do is to schedule some time with the individual, let them know that you are looking for help with X and would they be willing to provide some insight from time to time if you have questions. You don’t need to say “will you be my mentor,” in fact, unless they use that word, I would avoid it completely, but you do need to establish how best to communicate with them regularly going forward so that you are respectful of their time. For some, this means you may take your mentor out for lunch or coffee on a monthly or quarterly basis. Or it may mean that they have an open door or email policy with you for questions. This is very important that you establish the way you will communicate with them, because if you skip this, you may become an annoyance to the mentor and they may shut you out completely. Here is a sample conversation if you are unsure how to word it.

“Hi, MENTOR NAME. I am in the process of trying to do X and I know you have some experience with this. Would you mind if we scheduled some time for us to talk about this because I have some questions and I’d appreciate your advice. I’d love to take you to lunch or meet you for coffee one day if you have the time.”

Okay, so once you have that initial meeting set up, make sure to do your due diligence and come prepared with thoughtful questions. No matter how little you already know about your goal or how much you believe your mentor knows, it’s never appropriate to ask for general advice. You need to have questions and specific topics prepared or else you will end up with useless information from your mentor, or worse, ruin your relationship with them by showing your ignorance. It’s one thing to need advice from a mentor, but quite another to expect them to teach you everything you need to know.

If you are successful with scheduling an initial meeting and you have come prepared with your questions and feel confident that you and your mentor elect are hitting it off, you will want to establish an ongoing relationship with the mentor before the end of that meeting. So, at some point at the end of your conversation you want to thank them for their advice, tell them how much you value their opinion and then ask if it is okay for you to follow up with one-off questions in the future and how best to do so. Below is a sample of what you can say if you aren’t sure how to proceed, and if for some reason you miss this step or your conversation gets cut short, make sure to reach out to your mentor as soon as possible to thank them and establish that ongoing relationship. Adjust the following according to your situation.

“Well MENTOR NAME, this conversation has been very helpful to me and I truly appreciate having your insight. I have a lot to think about and process but if I have additional questions in the future, would you mind if we stayed in touch through emails or the occasional office visit?”

Depending on your situation, your relationship to the mentor, and the goal you are trying to accomplish, play it by ear how often you may need to contact them, and of course make sure to be aware of their feelings and reactions during these conversations. Most people will understand that you are coming to them as a mentor and will play along beautifully, but others may be oblivious to the ongoing relationship you are establishing. If you see that you are getting some resistance to future communications, pull back a bit and let them have their way. You don’t want to damage any future relationship by pushing them.

Obviously, this situation will play itself out quite differently if you choose to meet with a professional coach or consultant. That type of situation is much more direct, but of course, there are things to keep in mind when working with a professional as well. Please feel free to let me know if you would like me to write a piece on choosing and working with professional coaches and consultants and I would be more than happy to share my experience and give you some insight to help you make the most of that type of relationship as well! Of course, if you have any other questions about finding a mentor, let me know in the comments and I’d be glad to help! Or if you want to work with me one-on-one, check out my Empire Building online business program which is the formal way I work with clients to help them build their online businesses!

xoxo,

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The Essential Guide to Social Media Etiquette

The Essential Guide to Social Media Etiquette

I have been using the internet and social media for a long time now and I have seen (and made) many mistakes in terms of proper etiquette when interacting with others online. When it comes to digital decorum, there are certain rules of social order that still apply to our virtual interactions so we don’t end up with any follower faux pas or internet indecency. Today I want to share with you my Essential Guide to Social Media Etiquette where I’ll be covering the three golden rules of online etiquette and nine common situations where those rules apply. Now you have no excuse not to make the best impression possible on your online platforms!

Golden Rule #1: Treat others the way you wish to be treated

The Essential Guide to Social Media Etiquette

… When tagging people

  • If you are tagging other people, brands or businesses in your social media posts, it’s very important that you remember to treat people the way you would want to be treated. Tagging dozens of people in posts that don’t really apply to them is an annoyance, and overly tagging the same individuals over and over when you are not associated with them is just poor form. No one wants to be spammed online, so make sure you tread respectfully whenever you involve others in content.

… When leaving or responding to comments

  • Most people don’t like criticism, negativity or drama directed at them so make sure when you are leaving comments or responding to them that you are respectful to the feelings of others. Internet communication is always a little more difficult than communication in real life, so make sure to go out of your way to be very clear about your meaning in your remarks, even if you feel like your being a little ridiculous in spelling it out, it’s better to bear the brunt of that yourself than to inadvertently embarrass or upset others.

… When scrolling through your feed

  • Think about it, the whole purpose of social media is to become more social with people we may not see or know personally, so if you are scrolling through your feed and see that others are sharing news, either positive or negative, make sure to take the time to leave a comment of congratulations or empathy. If you were sharing news online, I’m sure you would be eager to get feedback. Likewise, if you have taken the time to follow someone, try to engage with their content as often as you can. Ghost followers are such a disheartening situation so make sure to reach out and be social with those you follow!

Golden Rule #2: Err on the side of grace

The Essential Guide to Social Media Etiquette

… When you see negative comments

  • I know first hand how uncomfortable it can be to see a comment from someone that seems negative, however, like I explained above, internet communication is hard and you should never make assumptions about what people really mean when they leave an unclear or uncomfortable comment. Many times people try to be helpful and engaged by leaving a comment that may not be 100% positive, but they shared because they care about you. Don’t take things personally, especially when you don’t know someone and their personality. You could end up reacting poorly in return or hurting your mental state by jumping to conclusions. If anything, make sure to respond politely and if you are unclear to their meaning, ask for clarification!

… When you suspect a copycat

  • Too often I see individuals online calling out or complaining about people copying their work and I think it creates a very uncomfortable situation on your platform for yourself and others. I firmly believe that there are really no original ideas left and that it’s common for many people to be doing and talking about the same things, especially if those people are operating in the same industry or have many interests in common. Instead of calling out a copycat that may be upsetting you, you should always reach out with grace, never accusingly, and clear the air. I bet you may find that more often than not, you have a kindred spirit you weren’t aware of!

… When you feel overwhelmed by content

  • As someone who runs an online business full time, I am often on the internet many hours a day digesting a lot of different content and that can lead to some overwhelming situations. I personally find that when I am consuming too much content, my personal style in terms of my own content will change or skew a bit, leaving me feeling lost and off message. It’s very important in those situations that I have grace with myself and take a break from consuming content in order to clear my own head. Likewise, I know another common content overload situation can occur when people begin to feel irritated or even jealous of the content of others. It’s very important that you remind yourself often that social media is only a small, curated snippet of real life and that isn’t not something you should be comparing yourself to. Having grace with yourself in this situation will lead you to a more enjoyable social media experience so that you are more likely to have grace with others.

Golden Rule #3: Establish clear boundaries

The Essential Guide to Social Media Etiquette

… When you are sharing content

  • It’s so important when interacting on social media to establish clear boundaries between yourself and others so that you or your followers don’t overstep and cause any issues or uncomfortable situations. When it comes to sharing your content, you must establish a boundary between the content you deem acceptable to share and the pieces of your life or business that you will be keeping out of the public eye. We live in an world of oversharing and I find that people who share too much of certain things end up creating an atmosphere where there followers often overstep boundaries of acceptable interaction. The best way to prevent unwelcome advice, comments or negativity is to be very clear and consistent with the content you are sharing.

… When you are following others

  • Social media really does make it so easy for people who have never met to feel a connection. I know that I personally feel like I know many people I have never met before, just because I have followed them for years online. The truth of the matter, however, is that if you have never met or had any significant interaction with people you follow, you don’t know them, you are not friends and you should keep yourself and your boundaries in check when interacting with them via social media. Not only will that prevent uncomfortable situations but it can also keep you from feeling rejection or anxiety over the actions of those you follow.

… When you are self-promoting 

  • It’s so easy when you are looking to promote yourself or your business online to blur boundaries in order to try to make a name for yourself. People often do this by going on a following spree and following lots of different people in an attempt to gain followers and then asking those people to follow you back. I also see people self-promoting by tagging their content with tons of different tags and hashtags in order to increase the chances of people following their account. This pretty much constitutes spamming people and it ends up leading to a situation where you will most likely have followers who are not interested in you and your content and may even target you for spam in the future. If you are truly interested in making a name for yourself, one that is respected and reputable, draw boundaries for your actions and activities online so that you are always putting the most professional version of yourself out into the internet!

I hope this article has taught you about the importance of internet etiquette and that you avoid your own follower faux pas in the future! Social media is such a powerful force for human interconnectivity and just because it may not be a face to face interaction, doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t treat yourself and those you interact with online with respect and dignity. If you have any questions about internet etiquette or need help navigating an uncomfortable social media situation, let me know in the comments and I’ll do my best to help!

xoxo,

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It’s link roundup time! Check out some of these articles for some personal development, productivity and business inspiration!

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